When we see her, that beautiful woman. Maybe the one, you would think. But… The problem is: “What the hell do I need to say to her?” Right? How many beautiful things aren’t fulfilled from one thought.

1 bad emotion that controls our brain.
And not just our brain, it prevents also that we would speak to her and possibly miss the chance of a very beautiful relationship. How is possible that we can actually think like that? Look, in the Middle Ages, it was a different story as you wanted to speak to a woman. You had the chance that the woman belonged to another Knight and that the man would dare you to a duel. The chance you would die because of addressing a woman was very likely compared to today. Today (2018), addressing women is not dangerous. The chance that you would die is 0%, but still, these emotions are keeping the upper hand of all our actions. Therefore it can be useful to follow the 3 steps that I’m going to give to you. It is the first step in the right direction.

Step 1: that one pick-up line that always works!
Well, if that would exist, I would have shared it with you. A phrase with which you can make any woman feel so well that you don’t have to do anything. How AWESOME would that be? Well, I have to comfort you bro. .. This sentence does not exist.
“Hey, who are you/Hey, what’s your name ….”
Is a very good one that you always can use it without having to be really creative with your opening lines. Learn if needed this sentence really out of your head, because it is 1 that you can always apply. So from now on it is done with emailing me with the question what is the best opening sentence, okay??

Step 2: do what you’ve always done, but the opposite.
The biggest problem why it always fails is that men address women for certain reasons. That can be because of them…
• Want to have Sex
• Want to have a girlfriend
• And so on

If you are going to approach women for these reasons (where I have nothing against), you are still going to do little things wrong without you will even realize. You will look very needy. Women feel your neediness and there’s no woman who finds that attractive. Try to approach women with a different point of view. “HOW CAN I MAKE IT MORE FUN”.
If you are going to move around with these thoughts on the street or in a club, you will also be in a different vibe. Instead of stressing and not knowing what to say, you will be full of FUN and nice EMOTIONS. This is what you like to have at all times when you approach women. If you are in this good vibe and you still think about how you can make it more fun, you will approach her with a different intention. She won’t feel any neediness from you. A bonus….

Step 3: make every step very small
Approaching women is not as easy as you might think. That everything immediately goes well so that it and that everything ends well for the first time. Approaching women, flirting, teasing,… It is a skill. Something you should really practice very well. It is a bit like playing an instrument. Such a thing makes sense that you’re not going to be able to do it the first time, but after a good practice, you can do it yourself. After years of practice, you’re better at other ones and you can go your own way, writing your own music and so on.
Where do I want to go now? So make sure that you are not going to play a track from the moment you met the first woman. Always care for a low threshold and then always get one higher up. For example: “Hey” and immediately running away is okay. At least you said something. “Hey, how’s it going” is again a step further, …..
Remember that you may run away from the moment you no longer feel comfortable. WARMING UP is another possibility. Warming up has the aim to get those good emotions to yourself.
Those good emotions take away the feeling of neediness and cause you to create nice conversations with everyone. That is also the purpose of such a warming up. After you have done your warming up, you can really speak to any woman you want. Of what exists such warming up?
Also here we are going to build up the conversations. Start with something small, such as asking for directions (daygame)
High-five (nightgame), after doing this for some time, the good feelings will come up. Of course, these won’t transcend yourself by only doing this exercise. Other little things. Simply go to random people and make a short talk. You don’t want anything from this conversation. It may also be fat women, older women, … the intention is only to learn yourself to be social and you’re trying to figure out where they are interested in. Then try to keep their interest in that subject as long as possible. This means you don’t have to talk constantly, but that you should let the other person talk as much as possible “why she likes it”

Why is she doing this?
Since when has she started,… Then you go on to someone else. So you will have leads where you can go that evening. Maybe they will introduce you to their friends/girlfriends… and you are already one step closer to your purpose. If this all goes well, you can easier take a nice woman from the club or on the streets where you are interested in, but remember to ask yourself the question “How can I make it more fun”. Don’t be too monotonous.
Mike Geerinck
Mike Geerinck
Mike is the Co-Founder and Executive Producer for Amnesti. He has been the creative mastermind and main public speaker at hundreds of Amnesti seminars worldwide. The foundational principles, concepts, and lessons of Amnesti centers around advanced content Mike created while traveling the world and analyzing male-and-female interactions.