It keeps coming back, guys! The most important thing for all ladies out there is the way you look tonight! Whether you have to make a first impression, or you have already known her for a good amount of time; you have to look at your best on the night of the date. It’s the first thing she will notice and it shows you are a man who is willing to put some effort into the date and eventually the relationship. If you really don’t know what to wear: go for a black or dark blue shirt with slim jeans (never wear skinny!). Women experience this color as interesting and mysterious.

Read her lips

It’s a fact: women tend to be more talkative than men. When she’s telling you stuff about her life, give her the impression that you are a great listener. Ask her small side questions about what she’s talking about. Don’t interrupt her stories by saying you had the exact same experience and then make it an even better story than hers. Keep the jaw dropping stories for later! But a great listener is aware of his technics. There are some rules you can follow to give the listening a more sensual vibe. Do as follows: let your eyes wander over her face and let your eyes rest on her mouth for just a little bit longer. Look at her lips while she’s talking (don’t stare!). This way a woman will feel flattered and pretty. And –not unimportant!- she feels the man is looking at her as if he would like to kiss her. This might provoke a physical move from her side.

The coat-table-glass trick

However you might feel the urge to feel and touch her –not even with sexual intentions- don’t start at the very first second. Men who are too physical from the start will make her take a step back. Just don’t, but start with everything around her. Maybe you can move her glass a couple of times to get closer into her personal space. You’re touching something that belongs to her, that is a mental boundary that you will break. Next in line may be to take her by the shoulders to turn her away from loud people in your surroundings. When her coat or bag is about to fall, take it and put it in a safer place… Things like that. You will enter her personal space without being intrusive.

Straighten your back

A man can give a boost on his class, just by walking straight. It’s a way of visually emphasize your status of a gentleman, to project that you are proud of who you are and that you have your life under control. It’s a psychological thing. Anthropological case studies have learned us that an age-old way of walking is still the best way to express happiness and good health. How you do it? Torso up and a little bit forward, head up high. Short, determined steps is good for your self-esteem. Don’t think women need the macho types who walk with their arms widely around their chest and try to act casually but are actually goofy. Work on your stature!

Lower your voice

You might want to try to talk a few notes down. Men with a deep voice make a woman’s heart melt. The key to this deep, sexy voice is to release any tension on your voice. Try to sound as calm as possible, don’t talk too fast. Tension is repelling, it makes you look like you are a nervous guy who has no idea what he is doing. When you start talking slowly, you will become calmer yourself and your voice will automatically go down. Your voice will sound warmer and it will reflect on how she experiences your personality.
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Mike Geerinck
Mike Geerinck
Mike is the Co-Founder and Executive Producer for Amnesti. He has been the creative mastermind and main public speaker at hundreds of Amnesti seminars worldwide. The foundational principles, concepts, and lessons of Amnesti centers around advanced content Mike created while traveling the world and analyzing male-and-female interactions.