You know that nervous feeling you get when you are about to meet someone for the very first time? Your throat gets dryer and dryer, your heartbeat raises to a level of which you might think it’s no longer good for your personal health and your hands might start to feel moist. Don’t worry, it is very normal, even necessary to prepare you to be focused and show the best version of yourself. It means you realize this first impression is significant for a future relationship and you know the importance of how to approach a girl.

When you approached a girl, she will start to build your image. The way she thinks about you and how she will feel about you in the future is highly influenced by this moment. Good thing, you can use this knowledge to your advantage! Be aware of the signals you send out. If you are a big, tough-looking guy, you might want to dress simple. You don’t want her to think you are involved in street fights every weekend! You might want to neutralize the personal components you don’t want her to take notice of. Of course, this also means you can do this the other way around. Ask advice when you go shopping. Ask your friends how you come across and use this information to optimize your first impression. It’s all about knowing yourself and (re)considering your style.

If you want to approach a girl well, avoid being ‘too’. Too shy, too tough, too sweet, too much of a bad boy… It will not work and it will be difficult to get rid of that first impression.
The other thing you want to avoid is trying to send out signals that aren’t yours. You always have to look for your positives and let them shine through. If you are not a rich business man, don’t try to look like one. If you aren’t the sporty type of guy, don’t dress like one. You will come across as fake. Think well about who you are and what you have to offer. Do you think that is too difficult to find out? Get some help. Ask your friends and relatives about your pros and cons.

Still nervous about approaching girls? No worries, it is still normal. But if you are to meet someone for the very first time, be prepared and you’ll be fine. And always keep in mind; you are both in the same situation. The nerves will fade, but that first impression lasts for a long time!
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Mike Geerinck
Mike Geerinck
Mike is the Co-Founder and Executive Producer for Amnesti. He has been the creative mastermind and main public speaker at hundreds of Amnesti seminars worldwide. The foundational principles, concepts, and lessons of Amnesti centers around advanced content Mike created while traveling the world and analyzing male-and-female interactions.