It has been hot topic and it will always be point of discussion: Involuntary Celibates or InCels are men that want to have a relationship (or just sex) but are unable to fulfill this need. They seem not to run into the right woman, or are victim of a vicious circle. Let me explain this last statement. Because of their lack of self-esteem, they are unable to approach a woman, which means it only takes longer to meet her, and the longer it takes to meet someone, the faster their frustration grows. Get it ?
We could introduce the statement that there is no such thing as deliberate inactivity when it comes to sex. That would mean: no man would ever choose a life without sex. We could say that the commotion with Belgian priests in the nineties has clearly proven that point of view. The fact that internet platforms such as Reddit or Discords have chatgroups especially for men who see themselves as victims of the celibate, means that men complain about the lack of sexual activity. Are you feeling identified by reading this article? Know that you are not alone, but starting a conversation with men who are in the same position will not help you overcome this very specific situation!
What you can do? There are many ways men deal with it :
- In many cases, the situation suddenly changes and the man, formerly known as an incel, meets someone, they have sex, maybe even start a relationship.
- Some of the men don’t meet someone, but take the situation in both hands and pay women to have sex with them. Always better than becoming an unreliable pervert.
- Some men don’t meet someone, don’t pay for sex and become miserable for the rest of their lives.
- Some men take a look at their situation and grab a chance. They contact us, learn how to deal with difficult situations when it comes to dating and they let us guide them through this difficult period.
All of this sounds familiar to you? Don’t hesitate to contact us! There is not one situation we can not deal with. We offer personal coaching and guidance in all discretion.